2) Mind Map

3) NLP

4) Public Speaking

5) 7 Effective Habits

1. What exactly do you want?

a. Have you stated it clearly and positively ?

2. Can you achieve this goal yourself, no matter what other people do?

a. To what extent do you control this goal?

3. How will you know when you’ve got your goal?

a. What will you need to see, hear & feel to convince that you have achieved your goal?

4. Where, When & with Whom do you want it?

a. When do you want this goal to materialize?

b. In which context do you want this? (Work, Health, Family, All?)

5. What stops you from already having your goal?

a. If nothing, proceed to step no 6.

6. What resources do you already have that will assist you in reaching your goal?

a. What other resources do you need?

7. What will you gain or lose in achieving this goal? (Ecology)

a. Are there any areas of your life where achieving this goal could have benefits or disadvantages?

b. Would it affect your peace of mind, your health or your family?

c. Is the goal really worth the price and resources you will have to invest?

8. What & When is your first step in getting this goal into motion?

a. Break your goal down to manageable steps and take immediate action

b. What can you do NOW (on top of what you have already done), to bring yourself one step closer to your goal?

c. Stand up NOW, even if it means just making a phone call or reading a book. JUST DO IT.

If NLP were ever to be presented in a three minute seminar, it would go something like this:

1.      Firstly, know what you want; have a clear idea of your outcome in any situation.

2.      Secondly, be alert and keep your senses open so that you notice what you are getting.

3.      Thirdly, have the flexibility to keep changing what you do until you get what you want.

Some of the NLP basic filters are often referred to as Behavioural Frames. These are ways of thinking about how you act. The first is an orientation towards outcomes rather than problems. This mean finding out what you and others want, finding what resources you have, and using these resources to move towards your goal. The problem orientation is often referred to as the “Blame Frame”. This means analyzing what is wrong in great detail. It means asking questions like: “Why do I have this problem? How does it limit me? Whose fault is it?” These sorts of questions do not usually lead anywhere useful. Asking them will leave you feeling worse than when you started, and does nothing towards solving the problem.

The second frame is to ask How rather than ask Why questions. How questions will get you an understanding of the structure of a problem. Why questions are likely to get you justifications and reasons without changing anything.

The third frame is Feedback versus Failure. There is no such thing as failure, only results. These can be used as feedback, helpful corrections, a splendid opportunity to learn something you had not noticed. Failure is just a way of describing a result you did not want. You can use the results you get to redirect your efforts. Feedback keeps to goal in view. Failure is a dead end. Two very similar words, yet they represent two totally different ways of thinking.

The fourth frame is to consider Possibilities rather than Necessities. Again, this is a shift in focus. Look at what you can do, what choices are available, rather than the constraints of a situation. Often the barriers are less formidable than they appear.

Finally, NLP adopts an attitude of Curiosity and Fascination rather than making Assumptions. This is a very simple idea and has profound consequences. Young children learn tremendously quickly, and they do it by being curious about everything. They do not know and they know they do not know, so they are not worried about looking stupid if they ask.

Another useful idea is that we all have, or can create, the inner resources we need to achieve our goals. You are more likely to succeed if you act as if this were true than if you act the opposite.

Our beliefs act as filters, causing us to act in certain ways and to notice some things at the expense of others. NLP offers one way of thinking about ourselves and the world; it is itself a filter. To use NLP you do not have to change any of your beliefs or values, but simply curious and prepared to experiment.

NLP is a model, and models are meant to be useful. There are some basic ideas in NLP that are very useful. We invite you to behave as if they are true and notice the difference that makes. By changing your filters, you can change your world.

Whatever the outside world is really like, we use our senses to explore and map it. The world is an infinity of possible sense impressions and we are able to perceive only a very small part of it. That part we can perceive is further filtered by our unique experiences, culture, language, beliefs, values, interests and assumptions. Everyone lives in their unique reality built from their sense impressions and individual experience of life, and we act on the basis of what we perceive our model of the world.

The world is so vast and rich that we have to simplify to give it meaning. Map making is a good analogy for what we dit; it is how we make meaning of the world. Maps are selective, they leave out as well as give information, and they are invaluable for exploring the territory. The soft of map you make depends on what you notice, and where you want to go.

The map is not the territory it describes. We attend to those aspects of the world that interest us and ignore others. The world is always richer than the ideas we have about it. The filters we put on our perception determine what sort of world we live in.

NLP is the art and science of personal excellence. Art because everyone brings their unique personality and style to what they do, and this can never be captured in words or techniques. Science because there is a method and process for discovering the patterns used by outstanding individuals in any field to achieve outstanding results. This process is called MODELING.

神经语言程式学是一门研究人们如何在任何领域达到优秀以及如何把这些模式传授给他人.

它是一门科学, 因为它有固定的方法和程序来发现杰出的人如何达到他们卓越的表现.

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Ruth Tan

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